Making & Keeping Resolutions

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Tips For Making & Keeping New Year’s Resolutions
Posted: 31 Dec 2009 09:05 AM PST

Something about the solstice, the holidays and the changing season makes New Year’s Eve a good time for reflection and introspection. We all want to move into the New Year on new footing. This is a time for looking at yourself and making decisions.Have you noticed, however, that most New Year’s resolutions turn to dust short moments after the year turns? Can you even remember the promises you made yourself last year at this time? It’s important and interesting to consider the ways in which you want to change yourself. It’s important to understand the limitations.

Your life’s work (the job you dream into existence) is waiting for you to do it. Somewhere between where you are right now and where you could be is a set of changes to your life. Figuring out the right moves is how you live your dream into existence.

Here are eight tips for making and keeping your New Year’s resolutions:

Don’t bite off more than you can chew. The most successful transformations happen one step at a time. You can’t wish your way from New York to San Francisco. You can, however, buy a map, prepare a budget, Google the directions, and get in the car and go.

Account for your bias. Most people have an unrealistic understanding of who they are (the bottom half of the performers in any organization uniformly think that they are above average). Before you commit to making a change, verify that you are able to make it.

Measure the thing you want to change. How many cups of coffee do you drink and when? If you are going to save, what spending will you cut out? How many calories do you consume daily? The more you can quantify your current behavior, the easier it is to change it.

Change one thing at a time. If you have multiple resolutions, get a calendar and schedule them out over time. Every change you make has a ripple effect. The ripples are what cause the change to fail. Give the ripples time to settle out.

Quitting is easier that altering. In order to build momentum, start with changes that are all or nothing (quitting smoking, quitting drinking, starting to exercise). Once you have mastered a dramatic change, the subtler forms (reducing spending, losing weight, driving slower, moderating your intake) are easier. Practice on the dramatic ones and move up to the subtle.

Make changes that feel good. Far too often, resolutions contain changes that feel awful. Getting enough rest, eating better food, taking time to say ‘I love you’, writing thank you notes are all changes that feel good in the execution. Try some of those.

Be kind to yourself. Allow for the slipping and sliding that comes with any change. Seventeen days in a row is the magic number. Try to do whatever it is seventeen days in a row in January. That’s a good start.

Write it down. The best way to remember last year’s resolutions is to have them in a journal.

Many of these techniques should be a part of Dreaming your job into existence. Next week, we’ll start the process of creating the dream job.

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