The Secrets of Resilient People

DFN: I got this from Tom Loarie, he’s one of the leaders of a net working group in Danville, called SING (St. Isdores Networking Group). I’d encourage you to take this ‘test’, I scoured a 38.

Everyone goes through tough times. Some people just navigate them better…how?
Resilient people:

  1. stay connected – They rely on others to help them survive tough times. They do not isolate themselves.
  2. are optimistic – Positive thinking is a good habit and leads to a good attitude, a characteristic that is important to survive tough times.
  3. are spiritual – Generally people who are active in their faith tradition do better in tough times.
  4. are playful – They enjoy themselves, friends and family.
  5. give back – The benefit you derive for yourself is as great as that you give to others.
  6. pick their battles – They focus their energy and time on things they can influence and not spend time on things they cannot control.
  7. stay healthy – As everyone knows but does not follow, a good diet and regular exercise provide critical buffers against stress.
  8. actively seek solutions – They zero in on challenges and deal with them; they set objectives and devise strategies for achieving them.
  9. find the silver lining – They convert misfortune into good luck and gain strength from adversity.

HOW RESILIENT ARE YOU?

Rate yourself on each of these statements using a scale from 1 (Do not agree) to 5 (Strongly agree).

I’m usually upbeat. I see difficulties as temporary and expect to overcome them. Feelings of anger, loss, and discouragement don’t last long.

I can tolerate high levels of ambiguity and uncertainty about situations. I’m flexible, and comfortable with my paradoxical traits: optimistic/pessimistic, trusting/cautious, unselfish/selfish, etc.

I adapt quickly to new developments. I’m curious. I ask questions.

I find the humor in rough situations and can laugh at myself. I feel self-confident.

I learn valuable lessons from my experiences and from the experiences of others.

I’m good at solving problems. I’m good at making things work well. I’m often asked to lead groups and projects, though I have an independent spirit amid my cooperative way of working with others.

I’m strong and durable. I hold up well during tough times.

I’ve converted misfortune into good luck and found benefits in bad experiences.

Total your answers.

Scoring

35-40: Highly resilient

30-34: Self-motivated learner

20-29: Somewhat resilient

Less than 20: Poor at handling pressure (but it’s never too late to learn).

Note: For a validity check, ask two people who know you well to rate you on these items; see what scores they come up with. Look for discrepancies and discuss them to come up with your true resiliency score.

Adapted from The Resiliency Advantage by Al Siebert, Ph.D. Reprinted with permission. Copyright © 2005, Al Siebert, Ph.D.


Cliff Notes – Gary & Linda Taggart – 12/05/2009

DFN: The Tagart’s did another great job of discussing the stress and strain of a job search on a relationship, and more importantly, offered solutions to diffusing the situation.

Gary and Linda, husband and wife

Pulling Together During Times of Loss
12/5/2009 – Gary & Linda Taggart

Gary laid off in Jan 2009, five months search.

Stressful for both husband and wife.
Job loss flares up underlying issues.
Feelings of failure / shame / loss of control / depression
Stress affects physical health

1. make daily progress, how much time?, wide net, not
narrow focus. Be aware of diminishing returns, stop go
do something fun.

2. Provide weekly update to spouse.
Ease anxiety, in a car passenger gets sick, not driver.
Lack of info, assumed to be bad news. Fun to be participant
versus an observers. Sense of teamwork, not an accountable
to spouse. Offer open ended offers of help. Role of a “coach”.

3. Appreciate the time off. It’s a gift. Develop a list of priorities.
Not necessarily time to do a “honey do” list. Ten years from
NOW, will you look back at this time and see what you’ve accomplished?
Gary, wrote a book. It’s not supposed to be 24X7 effort. Need downtime.

4. Work as a team to lower expenses. Figure out what’s important.
Doesn’t mean cutting everything out. Identify needs, ruthlessly cut
out wants. Cut deep, and once. Focus on what you will be doing versus
what you will be doing without. Financial challenges an adventure.

5. Discuss roles and responsibilities. What’s the division of labor in the
household. Don’t except unemployed spouse to become a “god or goddess”
housekeeper.

6. Diffuse stress, exercise, together or separately. Take turns. Listen, don’t
offer advice or opinion unless asked.

7. Tell children what’s going on but don’t bring them done. You’re a role model
for them about how to deal with stress. It’s an adventure.

8. Hold conclusions about what you’re going through loosely. Don’t know why
this is happening. Be receptive to the situation. Look for what the good is.
Don’t know the good from the bad as you’re going through this.

Pace yourself. Do something you’ve always wanted to do.

Pull together as a couple.

Realize this is a difficult time; it’s a season not a sentence.

Best. Regards,

Doug

On Sat, Dec 5, 2009 at 4:40 PM, Doug Neeper <doug.neeper> wrote:

The Taggerts – 12/05/2009
Gary and Linda, husband and wife
www.paycheckmanager.com

Pulling Together During Times of Loss
Gary laud off in Jan, five months search.

Stressful on both husband and wife.
Job loss flares up underliining issues.
Feelings of failure / shame / loss of control / depression

Stress affects physical health
Taggerts were successful

1. make daily progress, how much time?, wide net, not narrow focus. Be aware of diminishing returns, stop go do something fun.

2. Provide weekly update to spouse.

Ease anxiety, in a car passenger gets sick, not driver.
Lack of info, assumed to be bad news. Fun to be participant versus an observers. Sense of teamwork, not an accountable to spouse. Offer open ended offers of help. Role of a “coach”.

3. Appreciate the time off. It’s a gift. Develope a list of priorities. Not necessarily a “honey do” list. Ten years from nw, will you look back at this time and saw what you”ve accomplished. Wrote a book. It’s not supposed to be 24X7 effort. Need downtime.

4. Work as a team to lower expenses. Figure out what’s important. Doesn’t mean cutting everything out. Identify needs, ruthlessly cut out wants. Cut deep, and once. Focus on what you will be doing versus what you will be doing without. Financial challenges an adventure.

5. Discuss roles and responsibilities. What’s the division of labor in the household. Don’t except unemployed spouse to become a “god or godess” houseworker.

6. Diffuse stress, exercise, together or separately. Take turns. Listen, don’t offer advice or opinion unless asked.

7. Tell children what’s going on but dint bring them done. You’re a role model for them about how to deal with stress. It’s an adventure.

8. Hold conclusions about what you’re going through losely. Don’t know why tthis is happening. Be receptove to the situation. Look fir what the good is.

It’s a season not a sentence. Don’t know the good from the bad.

Pace youself. Do something you’ve always wanted to do.

Pull together as a couple.

Realize this is a difficult time; it’s a season not a sentence.

Best. Regards,

Doug

Job Search Success – Attitude is everything

DFN: Attitude is everything in a job search. Its tough to remain positive in the face of so much negativity. Early in 2010, I just stopped watching TV, too much bad new and I didn’t have a job. Some might describe this as sticking my head in the sand. If you go into an interview, and you’ve got a bad attitude, depressed, worried; honestly, you might as well not go into the interview at all. No matter how good of a match you are for the job, you’re going to be turned down on the basis of lack of ‘fit’. A positive attitude is the winning ticket. One day at a day, very myopic, not need for the big picture. Develop a belief, that things will work out OK, as long as you keep working on the problem. Easy to say, hard to do.

Are you a job search optimist or pessimist?
Posted By: Kim Thompson (Email) | November 03 2009 at 10:26 AM
Read more: http://www.sfchron.com/cgi-bin/blogs/gettowork/detail?&entry_id=50957#ixzz0YpadcAQ3

Your job search is often a reflection by how you see the world of work. Landing a good job can be a mixture of timing and the ability to take action.

We all have heard the way we view a situation described as seeing the glass ashalf empty versus half full . As with both views there is a pendulum that swings to the extremes, either side has its blind spots. The key is to have a healthy approach when facing change and know when you are walking on the extreme side.

A tight job market can influence the best attitudes. The view you choose can make your search feel productive or leave you hoping you never have to job search again.

A job search can be loaded with opportunities or barriers depending on how you view it.

Anyone who has been on the hiring side of the table knows how important it is to select a candidate with a positive outlook. With the number of hours devoted to the workplace, employers tend to gravitate toward the job candidate who displays a can-do attitude rather than the one who focuses on the problems.

Job searching through a pessimistic lens can be draining and keeps you from taking the necessary risks. In addition, an optimistic attitude is attractive and related to good health. In fact, a number of studies indicate an optimist usually has fewer illnesses, and when they do become ill, they recover at a faster rate.

What you visualize often happens. Think of the power of the visualization an athlete goes through before competing. The same visualization basically happens with a job seeker: How they view themselves during the interview or when meeting others while networking often occurs in life.

Whether you choose to be an optimistic or a pessimistic job seeker, keep in mind that your view most likely will influence how others receive you.

Try this for an experiment, over the next week, pay attention to how you view your job-search goals. Do you keep an open mind to possibilities or close the door to all the barriers you must overcome?

How can you tell if you are an optimist or a pessimist?

Usually an optimist will view the job search process as a series of opportunities, taking the search in stride by being adaptable to changes that are unpredictable, seeing rejection as an opportunity to learn and increase their job-search skills.

A pessimist will tend to view the job-search process as a series of failures, with each rejection a confirmation they lack the skills necessary to be hired. They often compare themselves to others and focus on what they don’t have instead of what they can contribute. In an interview, a pessimist will tell you what they can’t do for you rather than what they have to offer.

How to value a young company

DFN: Common sense approach to valuing a company; I’d add a fourth, which was fairly common (and I don’t recommend) back in the 1990′s, and that’s the "Sizzle Value"; you come up with a good idea, no sense of market share, or customer attractiveness, but, you assure investors the opportunity is their, you just need $500M to prove it in. Alas, those days are gone!

How To Value A Young Company
Martin Zwilling 09.23.09, 6:35 PM ET
http://myinvestingnotes.blogspot.com/2009/12/how-to-value-young-company.html

Say you’re lucky enough to find a willing investor in your young company. At some point (sooner rather than later), the guy will want to know: "How much do I have to pay for a slice of the pie–and how big a slice can I get?"

Placing a valuation on young companies is a tricky, subjective game, but it’s one small-business owners have to know how to play, especially when investment capital remains stubbornly scarce. Quote too low a figure, and you’ll give away the store; shoot too high, and the investor may blanch at your grasp of the underlying economics of the business.

Here are three techniques, some broken into parts, to help you put a value on your company. Your best bet is an amalgam of all of them. When it comes to impressing investors, the more ways you can speak their language, the better.

Technique No. 1: Asset Valuation

Of all valuation approaches, the asset approach–placing dollar values on all the assets on a company’s balance sheet and adding them up–is the most concrete.

Start with physical assets, including machinery, office furniture, computers, inventory, prototypes (and the cost to develop them). Young companies tend not to have much in the way of physical assets, but add up what you do have.

Then move on to intellectual property. This includes patents, trademarks and even incorporation papers (because the company’s name is protected). This approach may seem squishy, but the dollar amounts are real. A (rough) rule of thumb often used by investors is that each patent filed might justify $1 million increase in valuation.

Next up are all principals and employees. The value of most companies is in their people. In the dot-com boom of the late 1990s, it was not uncommon to see valuations rise by $1 million for every paid full-time programmer, engineer or designer. Don’t forget to include the value of sweat equity–as in the theoretical salaries that would have been paid to founders and executives who didn’t take them.

Also, don’t forget the customer relationships. Every customer contract is worth something, even those still in negotiation. Assign probabilities to active customer sales efforts, just as sales managers do in quantifying their teams’ forecasts. Particularly valuable are recurring revenues, like subscriptions, that don’t have to be resold every period.

Technique No. 2: The Market Approach

Another way to look at valuation is by estimating a company’s earning potential based on theoretical demand in the market.

Start by estimating the size and growth of your addressable market. The bigger the market, and the higher the growth projections (ginned up by independent analysts), the more your start-up is potentially worth. For a young, asset-light company looking to attract deep-pocketed investors, the target market should be at least $500 million in potential sales; if your business requires plenty of property, plants and equipment, the addressable market should be at least $1 billion.

Next, assess the competition and determine the barriers to entry. The stiffer the competition, the lower your valuation. On the flip side, the more fortified your company against new challengers (based on factors such as location, contracts with key customers, first-mover advantage, etc.), the more it’s worth. These intangibles translate into what’s known as goodwill–the amount a buyer might pay for your company above the value of the assets on your balance sheet. Goodwill can well bump up a valuation by a few million dollars.

Third, look at other similar companies that have managed to raise money–an exercise not unlike appraising the value of your house by comparing it to similar homes recently sold in your area. A thorough news search on Google might get you pretty far when looking for comparable deals. There are also professional valuation consultants who can pitch in–for a price, of course.

Technique No. 3: Income Valuation

The method, used extensively by financial analysts, involves projecting a company’s future cash flows and discounting them, at some rate, to arrive at their value in present dollars. The discount rate applied to start-ups is typically steep–from 30% to 60%. The younger the company, and the greater the uncertainty of its future earning power, the larger the discount rate should be. (Note: In the case of very young, pre-revenue companies, this technique may not prove very useful.)

A variation on this approach involves tallying your company’s earnings before interest, taxes, depreciation and amortization (EBITDA, to finance types) and multiplying that figure by some reasonable factor. Calculating typical EBITDA multiples for publicly traded companies in your industry is easy: Just take their market capitalizations (easily found online) and divide by EBITDA.

If running all these numbers sounds like a bit of work, well, that’s true. But, then, would you rather give away the store?

Martin Zwilling is the founder and chief executive officer of Startup Professionals, a company that provides products and services to start-up founders and small-business owners. He can be reached at marty, and for his daily dose of practical advice, see blog.startupprofessionals.com.

http://www.forbes.com/2009/09/23/small-business-valuation-entrepreneurs-finance-zwilling.html

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